How to Spice Up Your Marriage – For Wives

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1. Aditi says:

   March 7, 2012 at 7:18 pm

   I think there are several aorsens why men are reluctant to commit to a marriage. First, marriage is truly an outdated institution from the 1950’s. However, modern day society is trying to fit their lives into something that does not work. Women have changed their roles and are trying to do everything, have everything, etc. Men cannot have everything, so what makes a woman think that she can? Women have changed and expect men to adapt to their new roles. Bottom line…men have not changed, but women have and that changes the traditional role of marriage. Women now expect men to work and do everything else to pick up the slack where they are leaving off. Men tend to be disturbed by the things they are seeing today.Feminism has virtually destroyed the family or what is left of that venture. If you look at most of the social ills such as school shootings, drug abuse, obese children, latch key kids, ADD, emotional problems, among many others, these things can be traced back to the roots of feminism in this country. Many of these things either did not exist or were mild prior to about 1970. You will never find that women’s groups will admit to this because they are too self absorbed to acknowledge any of this. The feminists also tend to treat the sanctity of life with little regard as they casually visit an abortion clinic on their lunch hour because a baby might interfere with their career. The bottom line is that many men are disgusted with women and therefore, women have little respect in this country. The second reason for not marrying is finding a quality person. I live in the south which is a god awful place to be single. I am from an upscale family, but I am having a hard time finding my social equal/quality woman. I know many other guys that feel the same way. Should we move to Santa Barbara, St. Louis or Dallas in hopes of better prospects? The quality of women makes you want to stay single. There are so many single women with 3 kids (multiple fathers), no class, tattoos, multiple piercings, $35,000 in credit card debt, obese, but expect to land a quality guy with a good job and money. The third reason for not marrying is that men do not trust women. Women are perceived as having motives. Some want to rush into marriage after just 4-5 months of dating. Marriage should be viewed as a serious step which could impact the rest of your life. A lot of women have the attitude that if it does not work, there are others and she will get a settlement. It makes you wonder just how many women would rush to the alter if they did not think there was a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Ladies, please wake up and realize that men know this. A pre-nup is a good idea, but most women (and her parents) are insulted by this, but these same women who are insulted turn into greedy wolves when it comes to divorce court. Women are more eager to marry because it is less devastating to them financially. If you have any money at all, it is best to lock up all of your assets into a trust which cannot be touched during a divorce. Most women do not like a pre-nup because deep inside, they know there may be a pot of gold, but it might only be half full. Another reason for not marrying is that men see their lifestyle and quality of life as being better while single. There is room to move, explore new jobs, meet new people, go back to school, travel, spend time with friends, and basically enjoy a quality of life.Many of these exciting things would not be possible if a man was tied up in a marriage. The flip side is marriage which tends to equal “the same old routine”. Men like variety in life and like it or not, women tend to try to limit what men do such as spend time with friends, etc. The problem with marriage is that after the ceremony, here comes the unrealistic expectations, and then the resentments, etc. It is a no win situation when someone feels like they are trapped in a cage. Finally, let me sum this up. Women have become more like men with their independent nature, etc. Men do not pay respect to other men in the same manner as they do for a woman. It is plain and simple that men do not see women in the same light as they did in previous generations. It is everyone for themselves, and men see the need to protect themselves as well as their assets. That is just the wave of the future.

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   • admin says:

     April 13, 2012 at 2:40 pm

     Thanks for your in-depth reply! Although I don’t agree with everything you said,, I’ll allow you to voice your opinion.

     I would like to respond over time to your comments. Let me start with your first statement:

     I think there are several aorsens why men are reluctant to commit to a marriage. First, marriage is truly an outdated institution from the 1950’s.

     Marriage was instituted by God in the Garden of Eden – so I wouldn’t say it was an outdated institution. It has been around since the beginning of man. In Genesis 2:24 it says “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. ”

     Marriage isn’t perfect or ideal because we aren’t perfect people.

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